I’m very excited to announce that my book on how to support someone after a miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy will be published on September 16th 2021 in time for Baby Loss Awareness Week in October.
It’s been a long time without an update (a combination of 2020 lockdowns, a very sick second pregnancy and a baby boy born on the 23rd December 2020) but I’m currently taking some time out from maternity leave to answer editor queries and make some amendments. It’s very strange to come back to it after four months. Writing whilst pregnant after a previous missed miscarriage was an intense experience (for the sake of my anxiety I also had to turn down some work on second-trimester loss with the Miscarriage Association around this time).
The book has information on miscarriage, ectopic and molar pregnancies, the possible physical and emotional impacts and other related issues. It explores how to talk about them, practical matters, providing ongoing support and helping someone through pregnancy after loss. It also has a specific chapter for partners, useful resources and information on looking after yourself too.
It was not just my book to write. I have been through the pain of a missed miscarriage but there are thousands of stories of loss, of endurance, of grief and pain, of relief or guilt, of acceptance or of ongoing struggle. They are often kept behind closed doors. The more we hear their voices, the better we will understand. I included as many different experiences as I can throughout, in the person’s own words where possible. Many of those who shared their experience were doing so for the first time. Some found it cathartic. Everyone said how important it was to be able to share and to tell others what can, and does, happen. I hope I’ve done them all justice.